I’ve been a work-at-home mom for the past ten years. I remember this because one of my very first posts on the blog was about throwing a bubble-themed birthday party for my oldest daughter. It has been a big learning experience, but I have found working at home suits me (and our family) really well. With the right attitude, the right office setup, and the right resources, working at home is something that may just work for you as well. I’ll share toward the end of this post about my actual workspace, and tell you about the desk and chair I recently received from Autonomous, the sponsor of today’s post. If you prefer to watch a video about this, jump over to my YouTube channel where I just posted a video about it.
It seems that over the last 100 years or so, the ART of homemaking has been lost. What used to be something that we coveted as little girls, became somewhat of a burden. We were no longer taught that we should desire to be homemakers – that it was LESS THAN. Instead, we should desire a career only and also wanting to keep a home was beneath us.
Part of making-your-home (homemaking) is the decorating part. I’d be lying if I told you that was my expertise. The truth is, I get all my inspiration from Pinterest and then I just copy it. Ha ha! They say imitation is a form of flattery, right?
If you were to come into my home, you’d be instantly aware that I love words.
There are words EVERYWHERE.
I have printed words on the wall. There are printed graphics that are framed. We have blocks of wood with words painted on them. I have painted chalkboards in the kitchen with scripture. There are chalkboards in the bathroom. There is a whiteboard in the kitchen. Letterboards galore live here. I have window clings on the mirrors. Jewelry? Yup, words there too.
Scripture is everywhere. Funny sayings are in abundance.
Why surround yourself with truth and laughter?
Because if I don’t, my inner voice with negativity is louder. Lies are loud.
I take the Scripture about writing things on your doorpost (Deuteronomy chapter 6 and also chapter 11) to be very literal.
It is crazy important to surround yourself with truth. Every day. It’s a daily, hourly, minute reminder of what’s really true.
Laughter is good medicine. You are God’s workmanship. A joyful heart is good. No one can snatch you out of His hand.
And here’s a homemaking bonus – it’s really easy to decorate your home with words. Find free prints on Pinterest and go to town with some Dollar Tree frames. Don’t like the color? Hello, spray paint!
Letterboards and chalkboards are easily changed as often as you like! Change it up with the seasons! 🙂
Don’t know how to letter? No problem – you can use my cheater method.
Find phrases and scripture that speak to your soul and make you laugh.
And then, surround yourself with them. Words have power.
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Listen up – I hate to exercise. It’s the lowest thing on my GET IT DONE list each day. But regardless, I knock it out every day before my kids wake up.
Why am I doing this thing that I don’t really like…especially when I’d rather curl up on the couch with a good book, under a blanket, when the house is nice and quiet?!
Well, the short answer is…I just feel better when I do it. But after trying lots of different methods of exercise, I’ve landed on rebounding as my favorite (see what I did there? Ha!). Let’s talk about why jumping on a rebounder is awesome.[Read more…]
I remember when I first learned about menstrual cups – and it’s totally not a normal story. We were at Bible study and everyone knew I loved coffee – so they gifted me a coffee mug that says: Domestic Diva. For the record, I still love and use that mug regularly.
But then, the men started calling it my Diva Cup. And somehow, someone got on the internet and found out what a Diva Cup really was…and I was ABHORRED. No really.
What!?! No Way!
People do this?! They put a cup up in their hoo-ha?! What a bunch of tree-hugging weirdos!
And now, here we are. In the place where I always find myself…falling off my high horse and eating lots of crow.
Hear that? It’s the crows in my front yard.[Read more…]
Until recently, I never rested. No really. I didn’t.
I thought rest was for PANSIES!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, I have work to do!!!!!!!! We’ll just rest when we’re dead!!!!
Yup – you sure will. And you’ll go much earlier if you don’t learn how to slow the heck down.[Read more…]
I have always thought negative thoughts about myself. Things like:
- You don’t deserve anything
- Boy, you’re dumb
- She’s WAY better than you
- You’re stupid
- No one really likes you
- You’re not good enough
I can’t pinpoint WHY I thought those things…I’m sure some of it is because kids are just cruel and certain things stick with you. But sometimes things just get in your head.
It’s NOT humorous when you can’t poop.
It’s even more UNhumorous when your child can’t poop.
I remember thinking Eli had some kind of really incurable disease and I worried for days, finally taking him to the doctor and the ER – and guess what?
The poor boy just needed to poop.
With certain kids (or adults) it can be hard to get enough fiber into them for them to poop regularly – or maybe they DO eat enough fiber and still can’t poop.[Read more…]
All of us have something we’re passionate about. For you, it might be any one of the following:
- Real food
- Natural medicine
- ANYTHING else (you can be passionate about anything, you know…)
And when you’re passionate about something, it’s hard to accept when other folks don’t share the same passion. You want to tell the world!!!!!!!!! But you feel like you’re talking to an empty room.
I recently took some training at my day job on giving and receiving feedback, the psychology of high performance, and some HR and hiring issues. Over the course of that training, a few major things really stuck out to me, but one of the biggest was how terrible we are at dealing with conflict. My ears perked up when the instructor gave a simple model of dealing with conflict that actually makes sense. More on that shortly.
A part of our challenge with conflict is because we are so terrible at listening. We all took training to learn to communicate our thoughts and ideas – reading, writing, math, speech, etc. all are focused on helping us learn to formulate and share our thoughts – but how many of us took any training on listening? I know I didn’t, except for some on-the-job training when I worked at a call center years ago. The point is, we haven’t been taught how to listen, and we generally are pretty awful at it because our main goal is to get our point(s) across instead of understanding someone else’s.
If you couple our difficulty in listening, and our desire to be heard, with the supposed anonymity of being able to do and say what we want on the internet without any real recourse, it is no surprise that the comments section of most blogs and millions of posts on social media are a communications disaster. Frankly, we just don’t want to listen – we want to talk. The result = conflict.
A Conflict Model
I need to give credit to George Wright, from Wright One Consulting, because he’s the one who shared what I’m about to. However, I know it isn’t original to him. It is just an idea that we all need to see repeatedly…
What We Usually Do
What We Ought To Do
See the difference?
We usually approach conflict as a “you vs. me” situation. The reality of it is that it should be a “you and me vs. a problem we’re trying to solve”. But it’s so simple…if we would just embrace that simple strategy when in conflict with others! Dealing with conflict would simply be an exercise in good communication.
What’s the takeaway? Understand that the person with whom you’re in conflict is probably not a jerk who hates your guts and must be destroyed. He is probably just a normal person who is frustrated because you don’t understand his point, and you’re too busy trying to make him understand yours. How about trying to understand his perspective first?
Dealing with Conflict by Listening
Now, there are absolutely a few jerks who hate your guts and whose arguments you need to destroy. Your job is to become more in tune to how to respond to conflict by listening. I’ve been using this strategy for several weeks now and it is amazing how well it works. Give it a try!
Especially in today’s world, where everyone is supposed to be offended, no one can have an opinion different from mine, and we’re all unique and special (even though in many ways we’re not), becoming a better listener and recognizing that most of the time, conflict is not the same thing as a personal attack, will make a huge difference for us all.