Wow! She looks exhausted – those kids are killing her. I guess that’s what homeschool does to a woman – makes her look like death warmed over. I could never do that. She’s got baggy eyes and she’s all slouched over. And I think that might be poop smeared all down her yoga pants. Not giving me the best impression of motherhood. No sirree, not me.
Have you seen her lately? Dude. Ever since she got married, she quit putting effort into herself. She’s really let herself go. I’ll never get married if that’s what happens to people.
Why is she so mad all the time? Every time I see her, she’s got a scowl. She used to be so happy. But now she spends all her time yelling at her kids and husband. I don’t think I’m going to call her to hang out any more.
I’m not one to really care too much what other people think about me. I don’t really care if people think I eat too much butter, drive a sub-par used van, or eat poorganic food. That doesn’t bother me a bit. But I DO care if I give a good impression to others.
Your reputation is one of the most important things you have. If your reputation is in the toilet, it’s hard to earn it back.
A good name is more desirable than great riches;
to be esteemed is better than silver or gold. Proverbs 22:1
As much as we would like to deny it, people DO judge us by our outward appearance. Thankfully, the Lord looks at the heart. But your friends at book club? Yeah – they notice you’ve quit wearing your contacts and only wear slouch clothes now.
Hear me – we should be most focused on what the Lord thinks of us…but we have more clout with others and can reach more people if we make a good impression. It’s hard to do that if we don’t take care of ourselves.
If people look at you and immediately think that motherhood/marriage/homemaking is killing you, does that make them want to pursue the same path? Or does that make them want to run away and hide in Bermuda?
Being a homemaker is our highest calling and the most important job we have is done within the walls of our home.
Don’t put on a lie or charade to cover up – that’s lying – but FIX THE PROBLEM.
When people look at you, you don’t want them to see that motherhood is killing you – and that instead of a blessing, children are actually just something to wear you down until you’re fit for the loony bin.
Fact: children are a blessing and we can care for them AND ourselves.
When people look at you, you don’t want them to see that marriage is the place where love goes to die.
Fact: being married is awesome. It takes work, but the payback is amazing.
When people look at you, you don’t want them to think that being a homemaker is so dull and boring that they’ll instead be nomads and roam the earth.
Fact: taking care of your home is a worthwhile pursuit.
Fix the problem
So, how can we fix this problem and instead give a good impression as a homemaker/wife/mother?
If you don’t get sleep, it affects everything about your day. You feel foggy. You are more easily angered. It’s hard to be clear to make good decisions. You drink more coffee – okay, so nothing wrong with that last one, but if you need more coffee to make it through the day, that’s where it becomes an issue.
Do you need to schedule in time for a power nap every day? My friend, Lexie Naturals, does that.
Do you need to go to bed earlier instead of staying up playing Words With Friends? DO IT.
Whatever you need to do, find a way to get the sleep you need. It does wonders for attitudes and baggy eyes.
Remember when you were pursuing your spouse and you used to get ready for them? You would wear their favorite clothing and perfume? Instead, since you got married you live in workout clothes and can’t even remember what perfume is.
Listen up – just because we get comfortable when we get married doesn’t mean we let ourselves go. Our spouse is still important to us. We should still be making an effort for them – even more so than people who might see us later on.
Put on clothes. I put on nice clothes daily – even though I live with children who like to use me as a napkin. I buy used clothes from Thred Up (Ohmygosh, I love Thred Up because I can shop from HOME which feeds my introvert necessity. Get $10 off your first order here) so I don’t freak out if they get stained here and there.
Getting ready for the day makes you feel better. It makes you feel like you can tackle the world. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Spend that time for yourself – put on clothes and change your whole attitude.
Okay, before you get mad, hear me out. I’ve heard it said that, “any ole barn needs some good paint.” Ha ha!
Let me tell you why I wear makeup every day – first, it makes me feel better about myself. I like how I look with makeup on. And when I like how I feel, I’m better able to tackle my day. If you feel super great about yourself without makeup, then you don’t need it. For me, it just makes a huge difference in my self confidence.
Second, I like looking nice for my husband. I got all prettied up for him when we were dating, so now that we’re married I don’t want to look like an old bag for him. Ahem.
I know that sometimes makeup gets a bad reputation because real beauty comes from within. You’re exactly right! My husband says that well done makeup only enhances natural beauty. Because girl – if you ugly inside, ain’t no amount of Covergirl gonna cover that mess up.
But maybe mascara makes you feel better. Make time to put it on. Lipstick makes you feel like you can conquer the grocery store…so slap that stuff on and go!
When you look nice and well put together (with a good attitude, because that’s critical), you make a good impression about your entire household. Not just yourself, but also your husband and children. They are the ones that deserve our best – not just random strangers we might run in to at the grocery store.
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