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by Stacy  70 Comments

Your Attitude is Making You a Terrible Homemaker

you're a terrible homemaker

Woe is me! I’m a terrible homemaker and even worse cook! I can’t really bake anything that turns out. All my friends are in their home making their Pinterestworthy recipes with edible glitter and carved melons in the shape of Stonehenge and every time I try to bake muffins they burn on the bottom!

Ugh! I am so sick of cleaning this toilet. I clean it and then 20 minutes later, there is a splotch of poop that didn’t flush down and dribbled pee on the outside of the bowl. DO THESE PEOPLE THINK I AM A TOILET CLEANER?!

Look at all that I sacrifice for these people and they never ONCE said ‘thank you’ today. Not once. I worked my tail off until my butt was even sweating and this it the thanks I get?!

It’s super easy to have a bad attitude. I would even wager it’s easier to have a bad attitude than a good one. Want to know how I know? For YEARS I have struggled with having a bad attitude. I’m recovering…but still, I find the Attitude Monster comes knocking at my door. He was here yesterday, eating my muffins and chocolate in the closet.

It’s not easy to have a good attitude. You might not WANT to have a good attitude. But having a bad one consistently is making you a terrible homemaker – and honestly, no one really wants to be around you. Ouch.

You might have clean toilets, but when your attitude is stinky, you’d be much better off with ring-around-the-toilet.

The best things in life aren’t easy. They take work. Love – it takes work. Raising kids – it takes work. Marriage – it takes work. Pie – it takes work. You have to decide that THINGS THAT TAKE WORK ARE WORTH IT.

So, you don’t WANT to have a good attitude? I don’t care. I always sing, “you can’t always get what you want” to my kids – so much so that they can now sing it back to me when I’m throwing a 34 year old fit – and yes, I do still throw those.

You might not want it – but it’s the right thing to do.

It’s the right thing to do to have a good attitude. Get rid of that terrible homemaker with her bad attitude. It’s the right thing to do to love on your kids even when you’d rather hide in the closet with the Attitude Monster, and it’s the right thing to do to serve your husband out of love for him.

It’s the right thing to do. Choose that.

YOUR attitude sets the tone for your home. You cannot control how your husband or your children act – but you can control YOU.

Choose to do the hard thing with happiness. Choose to do the right thing. YOU.

When I’m in a good humor, I find that everyone else follows suit. But, if I’m nasty, guess who follows in my footsteps? Bingo.

God has given you everything you need to be a good homemaker – not a terrible homemake. Don’t ruin it with your nasty attitude.

Choose. Do. Be happy.

you're a terrible homemaker

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About Stacy

Stacy is a Homemaking and Business Mom Mentor, the author of two cookbooks, creator of multiple e-courses, seasoned life coach, and comedian extraordinaire. Her first priority is her husband and her children - family first. She presses on each day because her calling is to teach, train, and mentor other ladies to have their dreams. She believes if it’s not easy, you won’t do it – because she’s lived it. She’ll bring YOU the awesome so that you can get your home back into control and watch your business soar. For tips and easy strategies, you can follow her on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram.

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  1. Liz Pace says

    September 11, 2016 at 5:19 am

    So true and so difficult to remember sometimes! Thanks for this, just what I needed to read before starting my weekend chore-athon 🙂

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      September 11, 2016 at 9:52 am

      I hope your chore-a-thon went well!!!

      Reply
  2. Michelle Davidson says

    August 31, 2016 at 11:07 am

    AHHHH!!!!! Stacy, I needed this one today. I was complaining to my sister about how inadequate I feel as a homemaker because we live in a 1980’s home that still has popcorn ceilings and ugly textured walls and is only 1200 square ft (with soon to be 6 people in it!)
    In my new coop, I was able to visit other peoples (less than 5 year old) homes and coming home to mine felt so blah.

    We have practically no money to make things pretty and rearranging the same mis-matched furniture isn’t really working.
    BUT I realized yesterday that it is not what our home looks like that makes it home, it is how if feels and a cranky mama is not making home feel inviting, regardless of the crayon on the wall and PB on the couch.

    Then I came here to find some cheap grain free recipes and read this- Amen!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 31, 2016 at 1:34 pm

      Ha ha! Funny what you find when you’re not looking. 🙂 Hope you found a good recipe and I’m glad you found this helpful!

      Reply
  3. Joy says

    August 29, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    Bad attitude is something that I struggle with big-time, and I know that because the Holy Spirit convicts me of it a LOT. However, I have had to learn the hard way that no matter how much I want to, I just can’t “will” myself to have a good attitude – anymore than I can will myself to love other people that are less than “lovable “. I can only do it through God’s power. I have to go to Him in prayer and turn the whole ugly thing over to Him and ask for His help. ..and it works!!! He really does change my bad attitude if I am willing to surrender it to Him. So…He gets the glory, not me! ☺

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    • Stacy says

      August 30, 2016 at 5:18 am

      Daily time in the Word before everyone gets up is essential – but even if we do that and we don’t DECIDE to choose happiness, we can still be in a wonky mood. 🙂 I need all kinds of Jesus to fill me up every day. Shewee!

      Reply
  4. Mary C says

    August 26, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    I had a page a day calendar from the farmers almanac that i enjoyed reading the little daily jokes or advice on. One day (my sons birthday actually) the little page said “Do not pursue happiness; CREATE IT!”

    I tore that page off and stuck it on my refrigerator above the water dispenser. Now I cannot help but read it several times a day. I won’t say that it profoundly changed my life, or that it makes me remember to be happy every day ( sometimes i smirk at the little paper and walk away almost determined to still be cranky) but on most days, it gives me pause and helps me reconsider my attitude at the moment. Stopping frequently throughout the day to simply take a breath and choose happiness has had an impact on my overall satisfaction with my life and current situation.

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    • Stacy says

      August 27, 2016 at 6:40 am

      Ohmygosh! I LOVE THAT!!!!!

      Reply
  5. Sarah Eddins says

    August 25, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    This is a good one! Great reminder that set the tone for our home. 🙂

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 5:25 am

      Absolutely we do !

      Reply
  6. Mary Alice Kenley says

    August 25, 2016 at 6:53 pm

    Love this! I will tell you that it’s a lot easier to major in preciousness when the kids have grown up and moved off!!!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 5:34 am

      I think I’ll keep mine here forever, thanks. LOL

      Reply
  7. Abigail says

    August 25, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    This is just the message I needed today! Thank you so much for the painful truth…now let me go hug my 5 year old!

    Reply
    • Abigail says

      August 25, 2016 at 5:32 pm

      Forgot to post my wordpress website.

      Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 5:34 am

      I know that feeling – I randomly hug my kids after reading stuff too. Ha ha!

      Reply
  8. Ana (@ANAWINSblog) says

    August 25, 2016 at 3:21 pm

    I think we forget that we can choose our attitude. We think that our hormones are in control but we can get control over them despite what time of the month it is or how little sleep we got last night, etc.. I want my kids to remember a joy-filled home not a contentious, moms never happy home. I need to start singing that song! Ha!

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:23 am

      Yup – guilty as charged for blaming it on hormones.

      Reply
  9. Molly says

    August 25, 2016 at 2:04 pm

    Really, REALLY great article, Stacy. Four years ago my husband was forced to switch jobs, and in the stress of the transition I finally figured out something. I realized that the people who I truly appreciated and who influenced my life the most were the ones who were just happy. My husband is a good man. He didn’t deserve a wife who hung all her baggage on him and made him lug it around. I decided I wanted to be a happy person instead of an angry one, whatever it took. So I quit complaining, dropped the endless expectations, let go of all the ridiculous stuff I was constantly upset about, and started counting my blessings and thanking God for them. I was 50 years old! It’s terrible that it took me that long to finally get it, but what a difference that decision has made. Now my husband looks forward to coming home and my teenage boys are calmer and more able to tackle their own challenges. EVERYBODY is happier. I am resolved to never go back to my old ways.

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:22 am

      Well, praise the Lord, Molly! How wonderful! WOOHOO!

      Reply
    • Deanna says

      October 6, 2016 at 10:10 am

      Just read this and I think I need to print it out and put it on my fridge!

      Reply
  10. Cathy says

    August 25, 2016 at 12:45 pm

    Girl…you’re killing me!!! You’re kicking my booty…and I NEED it! Thank You!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:21 am

      I’m good for a kick in the pants.

      Reply
  11. Mamabunny says

    August 25, 2016 at 11:59 am

    Sometimes we just need to hear these things to realize the most common sense stuff.. I am aware and now and will keep this in mind. Thanks for the reminder..

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:21 am

      I think “common sense stuff” is what we need to make sure we keep hearing over and over. Because while it’s common – we forget. At least, I do!

      Reply
  12. Mel says

    August 25, 2016 at 11:56 am

    I used to sing “You can’t always get what you want” to my kids too! 🙂 Although they’re grown, I still struggle with the Attitude Monster ?

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:21 am

      And now, I’m singing it again. LOL

      Reply
  13. LD says

    August 25, 2016 at 11:20 am

    Had to lol as I saw your title just after telling my husband I was sorry for being such a grump grump! Feeling chained & overwhelmed while everyone else gets to do what they want when they want. I had a Nasty pity party right in front of God, my hubby & my dog. Only God knew the details. I’m used to being the positive one. OH MY!!!!!
    THANK YOU FOR THE RIGHT THOUGHTS!

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:20 am

      Hey – we all have those pity parties. The important thing is that we don’t stay there! 🙂

      Reply
  14. Katie says

    August 25, 2016 at 10:34 am

    Poop splotches! They’re the worst! Thanks for the funny pick-me-up!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:20 am

      What are those about anyway?!

      Reply
  15. Kathryn says

    August 25, 2016 at 10:26 am

    Spot on, Lady.

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:19 am

      Yes – spot on laundry. Easy to fix – just like my attitude. 😉

      Reply
  16. Theresa Little says

    August 25, 2016 at 9:33 am

    I tell my kids, “This isn’t Burger King. You can’t always have it your way.” LOL

    Thanks for the reminder.

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:19 am

      Ha ha! My dad used to tell me that!

      Reply
  17. Devon says

    August 25, 2016 at 9:12 am

    I sing that song to my kids too! My older two (3 & 5) sing it to the 20 month old when she throws a fit over something….. guess it’s catching on!
    Thanks for your encouragement… I needed it today (as I feel completely overwhelmed and am procrastinating by being on the computer… trying not to cry!)

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:19 am

      Don’t cry! Do the next thing – that’s it. Just one thing.

      Reply
  18. Nichole says

    August 25, 2016 at 9:12 am

    Oh my! The splotch of poop gets me every time! You made me chuckle. Thank you for the reminder that everything worth while takes WORK. I might not always hear a “thank you” for everything I do for my family. But at the end of the day I feel it through the little hugs and kisses. That makes it all worth it!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:19 am

      Well, I’m super glad the poop splotch isn’t just here. LOL

      Reply
  19. Linda says

    August 25, 2016 at 8:48 am

    Did I tell you I loved you today?

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 8:18 am

      You have now. 🙂

      Reply
  20. Tiffanie says

    August 25, 2016 at 8:41 am

    Needed this today!

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    • Stacy says

      August 26, 2016 at 5:46 am

      I do too – think I’ll read it again.

      Reply
  21. Audra Taylor says

    August 25, 2016 at 6:23 am

    “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” is more than a jazz song lyric, it’s the truth. We set the tone for our home.

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:50 am

      Wait. THAT’S A SONG?! I just thought it was a witty quote!

      Reply
      • Audra says

        August 25, 2016 at 1:44 pm

        It’s a real song, remade just a few years ago to a kid’s song!

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  22. Carley says

    August 24, 2016 at 10:30 pm

    Ahhhhh!!! Were you at my house today?!? Such a good reminder! The Lord knew I needed to read this tonight!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:51 am

      Nope, I wasn’t there. But if I was, we’d be having us some coffee and chocolate.

      Reply
  23. Carley says

    August 24, 2016 at 10:29 pm

    Ahhhhh!!! Were you at my house today?!? Such a good reminder! The Lord knew I needed to read this tonight!

    Reply
  24. Seeking Sojourner says

    August 24, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    Amen sister! Thanks for the reminder. I’ve known this to be true, but I come from an insanely dysfunctional background and God has given me extra particular challenges with my own family (I’m sure to accelerate me and make up for lost time) and sometimes it’s just easier to wallow in self pity that this is harder for me than the average woman. Boo to that! God only gives us what we can handle and we never know how much we can handle until we overcome something we didn’t think we could.

    Thank you so much for the encouragement. When I first discovered your article about the laundry monster I laughed so hard that I cried and your encouraging words made me cry too. You are awesome and I enjoy when I read your emails (oops, did i just confess to ignoring them? Yes, but not deleting, just saving for later)

    Bless you. Thanks for being you
    Ashleigh

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:52 am

      Ha ha! #busted But not busted too bad…because I hardly read any blogs. LOL

      Reply
  25. Cynthia says

    August 24, 2016 at 9:53 pm

    Working 40 plus hours a week to come home to my most important job as mom…I totally had the attitude monster right next to me. This makes perfect sense. It’s up to me and the household follows..2 year old, 4 year old and 37 year old* boys (admittedly the 37 year old is my other half). Thanks for this.

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:53 am

      Thank you for reading. 🙂 Have a great day, Cynthia!

      Reply
  26. Wendy says

    August 24, 2016 at 8:39 pm

    Good timing on this one! It does seem that when my mood is sour, my husband’s is as well…choose joy! ?

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:53 am

      Same here.

      Reply
  27. Michelle says

    August 24, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    Totally needed this right now. My attitude toward my role as a wife and mom has stunk lately! Thanks for the reminder that my attitude sets the tone for everyone else’s!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:54 am

      Admitting it is the first step. Oh wait…I think that might just be for AA. lol <3

      Reply
  28. Sarah D. says

    August 24, 2016 at 7:36 pm

    Thanks for reminding me to choose to be happy! I was wondering yesterday why I’m such a crummy homemaker… 😉 Thank you!

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:54 am

      It’s an easy fix!!!!

      Reply
  29. Julie says

    August 24, 2016 at 7:19 pm

    Stacy – yes! I really really appreciated this post. I’ve been thinking and reading a lot about joy & contentment – your advice was some of the simplest and best.

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:54 am

      If it ain’t simple, we won’t do it.

      Reply
  30. Luci says

    August 24, 2016 at 7:04 pm

    I had such a terrible attitude last night and everyone (myself included) felt crummy! Thxu for the reminder!!!!

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:55 am

      It’s amazing to me how quickly my family follows my lousy attitude.

      Reply
  31. Lisa Suit says

    August 24, 2016 at 5:50 pm

    Very well said!! I tell my kids all of the time that they can choose to be happy and then forget it myself!

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:55 am

      #guiltyheretoo

      Reply
  32. Samantha Browning says

    August 24, 2016 at 5:23 pm

    I love everything about this, well said! A good attitude can really be a hard choice to make but at the end of the day it’s our choice.

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:55 am

      Yes! This!

      Reply
  33. Becky says

    August 24, 2016 at 5:14 pm

    Did my husband call you last night and complain about me? Lol! I have had a stinky attitude lately from feeling very overwhelmed with all that I have on my plate. I feel like you wrote this just for me! You are right. Truth hurts but you offer great words of wisdom!

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    • Stacy says

      August 25, 2016 at 7:56 am

      I assure you he didn’t call me, because #whycallwhenyoucantext lol

      Reply
  34. Terri Monteverdi says

    August 24, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    This is so great – needed this today! My oldest recently started college but I’m still homeschooling the other 5 and there are days that I questions that decision! Thanks for the reminder!!! Will be sharing this!!!

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    • Stacy says

      August 24, 2016 at 8:59 pm

      You had one to fly the nest! They survived and even got socialized! WAHOO! 🙂

      Reply


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