Before someone calls CPS, let me explain. Every member of this house is expected to contribute. If you want to live here, you’re going to work. Plain and simple. And it’s Biblical – so just try and argue with me. 😉
What happens if I decide to take the day off because “I just don’t feel like it?” Well kids, I know I should wash your underwear and fix some lunch…but yeah, I’m just not feeling it. So, whatever. I’m gonna lay here and watch The Young and the Restless while you play in the street – because I’m done being responsible and all that jazz. It’s just not for me.
I’m done with adulting.
*Blank stares from children followed by the question: “What’s for lunch?”*
From the time we’re born, we’re learning to be a contributing member of society – or more importantly, the family. If you let your kids be lazy when they’re kids, guess what they’ll grow up to be? DING DING DING! Lazy teens/adults!
It’s really hard to be employed (for long) if you’re lazy.
So, we all work around here. Barry works all day and then comes home and does more work. I work all day (even in my sleep because I dream I’m working). Annie has chores. Andy and Eli have chores. And Ruthie works hard all day being cute – it’s a tough job, but someone has to do it. But even in her baby stage, she’s learning to help with things!
If Mama doesn’t do her chores, what will we eat!? THERE IS NO FOOD! ONLY BUNCHES OF INGREDIENTS TO MAKE FOOD! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!
For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.” 2 Thessalonians 3:10
We’re pretty strict about doing chores around here. We make it plain what’s to be done and we expect it to be done. So, let me give you the low down on how it works here just in case you’re interested…and if you’re not, that’s cool. I won’t hate on you for it.
Annie has daily chores. She must complete them before she gets to eat. If she doesn’t, she doesn’t get to eat. WHOA.
How many of you guys have your eyes bugging out? Well, let me tell ya – she’s only missed a meal a few times. She learned her lesson quickly. If she’s still in the middle of her list because she lollygagged and didn’t get it done before the meal started, she may finish and then come to the table
…but if she doesn’t finish before we’re done, too bad. And let me tell you, THAT only happened once.
We’re not terrible parents, but there must be a consequence for making a dumb decision (can someone please tell Congress?). That’s something every person must learn.
What happens if you don’t go to work? Wouldn’t it be better for your kids to learn this when they are young instead of when they’re 30?
Okay – so let me tell you something else you might find surprising. Annie thrives with this method. She knows what she has to do – and it’s better than my nagging her all day long in an attempt to remind her what to do. She’s in charge of her list – and that gives her some feeling of empowerment. She gets to make her own choices. And when her list is done, she gets to play. She LOVES that.
Obedience is doing something all the way, right away, with a right heart attitude.
Before Annie was able to read, she used a Melissa and Doug Chore Chart. It worked well, but now her chore list also allows her to practice reading skills. As you can see below, Annie is hardly suffering with her list. 😉
If we have a bad attitude, that’s okay. Let’s be honest – kids are going to have a bad attitude sometimes. Even I have a bad attitude sometimes…okay, a lot.
When a bad attitude is in play, said person removes themselves to their room to get things under control. Then they may return and continue the list.
If there is whining or complaining, you get EXTRA chores. Yeah – I said it.
Barry made our list, and I asked him to create a handy dandy printable for you guys too. It’s blank so you can use it no matter the age…even for yourself!