I’ve gotten asked before, Stacy, “How do you approach church involvement and extracurricular activities?” My take on this might be different than yours – but that’s okay! We can have different opinions and still be friends.
Before we had kids, Barry and I were very active in church.
We were at our church multiple days a week – I was volunteering and headed up one of the kitchens. I was very, very involved and so was Barry – because we had tons of time. But after kids, even thought we still wanted to be involved, it became much more difficult. Kids needing naps – trying to tote things around and contribute with our hands full most of the time – it was harder than we expected it to be!
We live about 30 minutes away from our church.
With Barry’s work schedule, we just can’t make it consistently to any mid-week Wednesday night service. Barry does serve one night a month at jail ministry. And Sundays after church, we spend the day with either Barry’s parents’ or my parents’ homes for family time. I was helping to coordinate meals, but it became such a point of stress for me! Trying to coordinate that from 30 minutes way got too hard. But if I am ever asked to bring a meal I will always do that!
Right now, we go to Sunday services and that is about it.
Don’t feel guilty or allow someone else to make you feel guilty if you can’t be as involved as you might want to be or as you used to be.
As far as extracurricular activities go…we don’t have any!
Ever since I had my first child… I made the decision that I’m not going to do it. I’m not going to fall into the trap that I have to do and do and go and go. I’ve finally learned that it’s okay for me to not do much. I know that a lot of people feel that they have to do so many of this or that – to be involved in church, gymnastics, dance, soccer, etc. Our family is content and happy spending time just being together in our home. I don’t have to go places all the time.
I do everything I can to not mess with nap time.
That part of their day is sacred, y’all! I used to feel guilty about it, but I don’t anymore! I’ve been told that as my children get older this will change and we’ll start being more involved and active. That may be true – but we’re not there yet so I can’t speak to that. But I can promise that but if/when that next stage in life comes, we will adapt.
This stage with young children is just a short blip in the big scheme of things. And I know it will pass more quickly than I realize! How do kids even grow so quickly?!? I feel like I blinked and I’ve got a 9 year old! Enjoy the slower pace of life that comes with having young children.
Don’t feel guilty – life is too short for all that.
Enjoy the time you are in with kids and don’t dwell on what you aren’t accomplishing our doing in the church or community. Your time spent in your home is time well spent! There will always be time for those things as your children grow. And like I’ve written about before… just because it’s hard doesn’t mean I’m going to quit. For more on this check out post about how Church is hard, Go anyway!
I’m curious… how involved are in church and extracurricular activities?