My dad called. The first thing out of his mouth was, “I wanted to call and tell you this before you saw it on Facebook…” I was done. Finished.
I’ve walked away from Facebook for personal use. Mostly because it was driving me nutso. I’m not sure if I’m your average Facebook user, though. I found that it was stressing me out more than helping me out. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
No, this isn’t a post why you should leave Facebook. I’m well aware that most people won’t – and that’s okay. It’s a good tool for those who know how to use it. I don’t.
I’ve stayed on FB for this blog, to announce new posts or something I’ve seen that I thought you might enjoy. Otherwise, I stick mostly with this blog and Instagram. If you’re one of the types of people who can use Facebook to your advantage, not get upset at things you see, or get addicted to being on it a million times a day, that’s why I’ve stayed – for you. 😉 I usually check it about once a day to make sure I don’t have anything pressing to answer…but sometimes it’s every two-three days. Sometimes butt wiping puts me behind on things…pun intended.
For whatever reason, it seems that on Facebook people feel free to act like total idiots – and say stupid things they wouldn’t ever dare to say to someone’s face. When did that happen? I think it’s awful. Facebook was stressing me out because:
- I would see family post things that I shouldn’t be seeing online with general public…it would be nice to hear it from them.
- I would see people say nasty and rude things to each other
- I would see photos of things that I really shouldn’t be looking at
- It’s addicting to check it multiple times a day
- I don’t really care about most of the stuff being posted
- It keeps people from being present…you know, like with you.
For whatever reason, Instagram doesn’t seem to be this way. The community there is great, uplifting and fun. I know tons of you say you don’t have time for that. It just means we all have to choose where we can best spend our time and be the most uplifted. For me, I’m spending my time there and getting to know people. A picture is worth 1,000 words.
Sure, you can just choose to let this stuff run off your back. Or you can turn your back on it and walk away. Which is what I did. But for those of you staying, here’s this post to get you thinking. Should you be posting that on Facebook?!
Things you should NOT post on Facebook
Big announcements before telling your family
You know, I don’t know why this one bothers me so badly. But I really hate hearing that someone is pregnant, getting married, or dying by a public post on a social media platform. Wouldn’t it be nice to call someone? Or visit someone? Or gosh, even TEXT SOMEONE before putting it on social media to make sure the guy you once met at Subway could know at the same time as your sister-in-law?
You’re going on vacation
I really, really struggle with this one. For one, I feel like saying “Hey! I’m going to Disney!” and posting my pictures while there is just an invitation saying, “Hey, person I once checked out beside at Kroger, want to come rob my house?!” If you’re going to do this, make sure your post is private and you trust the people on your page….or make sure all your neighbors know you’re going to be gone so they can keep an eye on the place – this is the one we aim for. And I’m still very vague when we go anywhere.
Mean and terrible rants against your spouse
Hello? This is your SPOUSE. The person you pledged to love and stick with the rest of your life. You shouldn’t be trashing them on social media. Heck, you shouldn’t be trashing them at all. In public, only speak highly of your spouse…praise them and love on them. Period.
Does this mean that I never get mad at Barry? Uh, no. I’m fiery and get mad on a regular basis…so I either talk it out with my best friend, or with the walls in the bathroom – and just a little talk with Jesus makes it right.
Wild and crazy pictures and status updates
Okay, this might come as a shock…but did you realize other people can see those photos and things you post? Like EMPLOYERS?! Potential employers are now checking social media to see how you’re acting. A terrible page is not likely to get you hired, pal. It’s likely to get your butt kicked out on the street. Saying that you got so drunk you slept in a phone booth last night isn’t a good way to be promoted to VP of Sales. Side note: do they even have phone booths anymore? Doh.
Things about your children
Don’t say stuff about your kids that you can’t take back. Seriously. They might not be able to read now, but they can later. And everything on the internet is permanent…I don’t care what someone says. Have you not seen CSI?!
If it would embarrass you, then don’t post it about your kids. And don’t say mean things about them – label them – or post awful pictures to get a laugh.
Cute things are awesome. Cute photos are awesome. Milestones are awesome. Funny little happenings are awesome. Stories that would embarrass them for life? Not so much. Saying rude and vulgar things about them? Come on. No way.
Again, this is not a post about why you should leave Facebook and join me on Instagram…but it’s cool if you do. This is post to get you thinking about stuff you’re posting on social media (stuff that lasts forever) and to think about where you’re spending your time – are you being uplifted? If not, do you really have time for that? It’s also possible to fall into this same rut on Instagram or Twitter – so before you post, think.
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