I know this is a topic everyone has feelings about… but since I’ve been asked multiple times about the subject of kids sharing a bedroom, I figured it’s a topic I should address! Y’all asked, “Have you ever had an issue with your children sharing a room?” The answer is super simple…
When we moved in this house, we only had Annie – and this is what we could afford, since we wanted to pay cash for our home. Since we live in a smaller home, there are only three (and they’re small) bedrooms. To be completely honest, the kids sharing a room hardly even seems like a sacrifice to us! It was never an issue or was never really something that we thought much about.
The boys are in one bedroom, and the girls are in another.
I know some people feel like whenever possible kids should have their own rooms. But let me tell you – I disagree. I didn’t grow up in a large family – it was just my sister and me. I never had to share a bedroom in my life! And I certainly never had to share a bathroom with 3+ people. However, college was a rude awakening for me! It was definitely a harder transition for me at 18 than it would have been when I was 8 (or 8 months) old! That said, I think it’s really good for children to share bedrooms so they can learn to treat someone kindly and to learn to share their space with other people.
If you have kids sharing a room, are they scarred for life?
Probably. Just kidding – you know I’m joking! But in all seriousness, I really don’t think so. Like everything in life, there are a few cons, but in my opinion, the pros outweigh any cons! Annie had a few years when she had her own room (before Ruth Ann came along). Ruth Ann stayed in our room until she stopped feeding through the night. But, the boys don’t know life without living with each other. We will probably someday move to a larger home, but I’m still planning on the kids sharing bedrooms. I don’t think I would ever want a 5 or 6 bedroom house, which is what it would take for everyone to have their own room.
For one thing… I don’t want that much house to clean!
I really like the lessons they are learning in sharing space, listening to each other, helping each other clean, spending time together at night as they’re falling asleep. Annie helping Ruthie get up in the morning and bringing her down the hall brings me joy. Hearing them giggling and playing with one another every morning as they wake up together is lots of fun (as long as it isn’t too early). Y’all – my kids really do have great friendships with one another.
Do they still fight, call each other names, and hurl toys at each other some times?
Well, yes, because after all, they’re still kids! But our kids really get along well. They enjoy their time together and have never once complained about sharing a bedroom. I mean, they really don’t spend tons of time in their bedrooms anyway! Most of their awake time is spent in the downstairs family room, living room, or kitchen, or playing outside in the yard or on the back porch. But they wouldn’t have it any other way!
Our goal is that our kids love each other and still want to be friends when they grow up and move out as adults.
If you are in a smaller home, you might be worried that if you have more kids, you’ll have too many kids sharing a room. Don’t let that keep you from growing your family. Please don’t be worried! Kids adjust and adapt – just like you did when you became a parent. Think about it. Be encouraged today that if you have lots of kids sharing a bedroom today, your kids won’t be scarred for life! If anything, sharing a room just better prepares your kids for the rest of their lives.
Did you share a bedroom when you were younger? Are your kids sharing a bedroom now?