I will never be supermom. I want to be…but I can’t make it there.
Annie wants to play matching cards with me. I’m busy in the kitchen. She gets upset and yells at me. I yell back at her. Great. Now I’ve lowered myself to a 3 year old’s standards.
Annie wants to help me in the kitchen. I tell her no. I’m too busy and I want to get my work done. She leaves and returns sadly to her room.
Andy is crying in the bouncy seat. I’ve had him in there for too long and he wants his Mama. I’m busy folding laundry and so I leave him just a bit longer.
Barry gets home from work and wants some quality time with his wife. I’m tired. I don’t feel like talking. I’m worn to a frazzle and just want a cup of coffee and chocolate. Barry works on his computer.
I am so weak. I’m tired. My children don’t sleep well. I hear stories of other super mom bloggers – bloggers who get up early in the morning and do all their work – bloggers who hire mommy helpers so they can get their blog work done. I just can’t do that. I can’t hand my children over to someone else so that I can “get my computer work” done. I’m a Mommy. THAT’S my work.
I am so weak. I just want to get up early and have some quiet time with God. I want to watch the sun rise. I want to take a hot shower with no one yelling at me. But instead, the minute my feet hit the floor, one or both of my children are up with me.
“But he said to me [STACY], “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
I don’t need to be supermom. I don’t WANT to be supermom. I want my children to see me messy. I want them to see me mess up and to hear me apologize to them and ask for forgiveness. Won’t that also teach them that they need forgiveness from their Heavenly Father? Yes.
I don’t want to give up time with my babies so that I can work on Facebook. I don’t want to tell Annie that I can’t play matching cards with her because I’m reading a new article about Twitter. She’s precious. My time with her is precious…my time holding Andy is but a breath in my life.
Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate. Proverbs 127:3-4
As I start to extend grace to myself, let me also extend grace to you. We don’t have to be perfect – we just have to be Mommy. I can’t be a super-blogger and play with my babies at the same time. I’m a Mommy first. So, if blogging takes a back burner sometimes because I don’t have time to write when/if my kids are asleep, then a post doesn’t come out. Big stinkin’ deal. I’ll get around to writing a new post or catching up on Facebook comments when I get around to it.
Yes, I might not get extensive quiet time with God each day, but instead I can have devotions WITH my children and teach them about the love of God – all the while learning myself.
Yes, I can blog…when it’s convenient. Sometimes I might not get around to my computer work. That’s okay. Some days I might not get anything done except feed my family and take Dottie out to pee.
One day I won’t remember the dust that didn’t get cleaned up or the pile of clutter on the counter – but I will remember making my son giggle for the first time. I will remember Annie standing in her learning tower mixing up muffins with me.
Sometimes I might not get to take a bath…and sometimes I might forget that I didn’t brush my teeth today – or the day before. Uhhh, oops? Who cares? As long as I’m not stinkin’ up the house, I should be good to go, right?
God shows me grace. He loves me. I must also learn to show myself the same grace. And I must also show that grace to my children. After all – that’s my job.
Who wants to be supermom anyway?
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31: 27-30
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