Dating Doesn’t End With Marriage

You know how it is before you get married…..you two want to be together all the time. You hate being apart. You spend about 30 minutes telling each other “goodbye” and you make everyone around you want to vomit. Then you get married and for some reason, things seem to change. You ARE together all the time. You wonder why you didn’t notice the ear hair in your spouse’s ear before you got married. You wonder if they had such nasty morning breath before you said “I do.” But, you adjust. And you learn how to live with another human being – and you settle in. It’s a nice feeling – settling in. I love the comfort of having a settled life with Barry.

BUT, being settled in can sometimes be dangerous. When you get too comfortable, you stop trying. You stop trying to please your spouse. You stop trying to be nice. You stop making pancakes and make him eat Pop Tarts every day instead. You just quit. Things are normal and nice, so why should you still have to try? Folks, this is a VERY DANGEROUS place to be. If you talk to anyone who is divorced, most of them will tell you that something happened and they just stopped trying. So, what can you do about it?

Join me over at Intentional by Grace where I share the reasoning behind why Barry and I still “date.” I’ll also give you a little insight into how men think – by getting a word from Barry. You know you want to know how men think……read more here.

Join us for Gratituesday at Heavenly Homemakers!

*This post is linked at Finer Things Friday on Amy’s Finer Things.

About Stacy

Stacy is a Home Management Mentor, the author of two cookbooks, the creator of why-didn’t-I-think-of-that homemaking hacks, and an expert on making real food taste lip-smacking delicious. She loves butter, dessert, baking, organizing, and staying home with her husband and four hilarious kids. She believes if it's not easy, you won't do it - because she's lived it. She'll bring YOU the awesome so that you can get your home back into control. For tips and easy strategies, you can follow her on Facebook, YouTube, Instagram and Periscope - because live video is her jam.

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Comments

Miranda says

February 17, 2012 at 7:30 pm

I’ve struggled with being too complacent in our marriage. It’s a good reminder for me that our marriage doesn’t have to settle and that we should take the time to date.

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- Stacy says
  
  February 18, 2012 at 8:09 am
  
  I think we all struggle with that a little bit. 🙂
  
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Susan Evans says

February 14, 2012 at 4:40 pm

I totally agree with you, that we should never become complacent in our marriages, but continue to treasure the other person and desire to be with them.

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- Stacy says
  
  February 14, 2012 at 4:50 pm
  
  Amen sister. Well said.
  
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Leigh Ann @ Intentional By Grace says

February 14, 2012 at 8:41 am

I love you, Stacy! Thanks for allowing me the pleasure of your presence on my blog. 🙂 You and Barry rock…my face off.

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- Stacy says
  
  February 14, 2012 at 8:46 am
  
  The feeling is mutual sista!
  
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