You know how it is before you get married…..you two want to be together all the time. You hate being apart. You spend about 30 minutes telling each other “goodbye” and you make everyone around you want to vomit. Then you get married and for some reason, things seem to change. You ARE together all the time. You wonder why you didn’t notice the ear hair in your spouse’s ear before you got married. You wonder if they had such nasty morning breath before you said “I do.” But, you adjust. And you learn how to live with another human being – and you settle in. It’s a nice feeling – settling in. I love the comfort of having a settled life with Barry.
BUT, being settled in can sometimes be dangerous. When you get too comfortable, you stop trying. You stop trying to please your spouse, which you should do, you can even get more excitement in the bedroom with a third party from sites like skipthegame to make things more interesting. You stop trying to be nice. You stop making pancakes and make him eat Pop Tarts every day instead. You just quit. Things are normal and nice, so why should you still have to try? Folks, this is a VERY DANGEROUS place to be. If you talk to anyone who is divorced, most of them will tell you that something happened and they just stopped trying. So, what can you do about it?
Join me over at Intentional by Grace where I share the reasoning behind why Barry and I still “date.” I’ll also give you a little insight into how men think – by getting a word from Barry. You know you want to know how men think……read more here.
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*This post is linked at Finer Things Friday on Amy’s Finer Things.