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by Barry  116 Comments

Five Minutes on Marriage

This week is a bit of a departure from my normal posts.  Why? We’re trying something new, simple as that.  While Stacy and I were talking the other day, we came up with the idea that if we were put in front of a camera and simply started talking about something, there may be a little humor, a little fun and maybe even a nugget or two of wisdom that would result.  We decided on the following ground rules:

  1. Before the camera was turned on, we would decide only on what topic or question we would discuss.
  2. No pre-planning allowed.
  3. When the camera starts rolling, so does a five-minute timer.
  4. When the timer is done, we’re done.
  5. No second takes.
  6. No editing after we’re done except to trim off the beginning and end.

Today, I get the honor of sharing the first of what may be many or may be the only one you ever see – that’ll be up to you.  Either way, check out the video below and learn how we make our marriage work.  We answer some really important questions, including:

  • How do we make our marriage work?
  • What are the key ingredients for us of a marriage that after ten years we haven’t even considered divorce?
  • Why is texting and email a good thing for us?
  • If Stacy ever murders me, where should you look for my body?

So now it is up to you.  Check out the video, tell us what you think and this may be something you’ll see more of in the future…or not.

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About Barry

Barry is the husband half of the Humorous Homemaking team. He speaks and writes mostly about personal development and personal finance issues. He is the author of From Debtor to Better: The Details of Debt and How to Get Out! and regularly speaks at conferences and other events.

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  1. Cheeryshirley says

    June 29, 2013 at 8:48 pm

    I think that being united on all major issues is paramount! You’re united on child-rearing, chores, marriage, etc. I think that a HUGE area that you’re united is in financial things…you are on the same page and that is so important to making a marriage work! Good on ya! Cheeryshirley

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    • Stacy says

      June 30, 2013 at 6:12 am

      We’re on the same page most of the time, except for the whole male/female “I don’t understand you” thing we sometimes have going on. lol

      Reply
  2. Stacy says

    June 26, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    Will do!

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  3. Leslie Patterson says

    June 26, 2013 at 11:06 am

    Loved it! My husband and I just got married this March, so any and all tips are much appreciated. Thanks!

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    • Stacy says

      June 26, 2013 at 4:46 pm

      Congratulations! It’s a wonderful ride! 🙂

      Reply
  4. Cheryl says

    June 26, 2013 at 1:58 am

    Real, short, and good info, as usual. Keep ’em coming!

    Reply
  5. Free to be Home says

    June 25, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    I appreciated the 5 minute video on marriage, you seemed really real together and I liked your points. I like the website as well and I have been making changes in our home for the better since I have been reading all the material I’ve looked up. Thanks and keep up the good work.

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    • Stacy says

      June 25, 2013 at 3:30 pm

      Thank you! 🙂 That’s encouraging for us!

      Reply
  6. Brandy Himmelmann says

    June 24, 2013 at 10:58 pm

    I want to see more!! I follow your blog and also on Facebook. I discover more and more each day. Y’all are cute together!!

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    • Stacy says

      June 25, 2013 at 1:18 pm

      Thanks. 🙂 Everyone likes to hear they’re cute. lol

      Reply
  7. Anne @ Authentic Simplicity says

    June 24, 2013 at 4:25 pm

    Love it! You two are so cute together!

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    • Stacy says

      June 24, 2013 at 6:02 pm

      Awww, thanks! 🙂

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  8. Stacy says

    June 24, 2013 at 4:03 pm

    Will do!

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  9. Stacy says

    June 24, 2013 at 3:59 pm

    We’re honest….glad you like it. 🙂

    Reply
  10. JLowman says

    June 24, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    I really enjoy your blog. I started following several months ago along with Intentional Homeschool and you both have been a tremendous blessing/help to me and my family. I enjoyed the video so by all means feel free to do more. You probably notice me commenting all the time on your blog/instagram/fb page. Lol! 🙂

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    • Stacy says

      June 24, 2013 at 3:57 pm

      🙂 I love commenters! 🙂 Keep on!

      Reply
  11. Carrie Slick says

    June 24, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    This was great! I am going on 5 years of marriage and we are expecting our first and I can use all the wisdom and advice I can get. I appreciate your honesty and candor and look forward to more. Thanks!

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  12. Michele says

    June 24, 2013 at 12:15 pm

    I liked it. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Stacy says

      June 24, 2013 at 12:46 pm

      Thanks for commenting!

      Reply
  13. Cynthia Hutchinson says

    June 24, 2013 at 11:12 am

    Thank you, it was wonderful; please continue.

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      June 24, 2013 at 12:47 pm

      We’re working on another!

      Reply
  14. Nikki Thornton says

    June 24, 2013 at 10:26 am

    You guys are great! Keep the videos coming! ( :

    Reply
  15. Stacy says

    June 24, 2013 at 7:29 am

    What did she say? lol

    Reply
  16. Stacy says

    June 24, 2013 at 7:29 am

    We hope to post again soon!

    Reply
  17. Kara Ullrich says

    June 23, 2013 at 11:01 pm

    I love your blog- and this one was great! Thanks for sharing about your marriage, there’s something refreshing about finding people who aren’t afraid of being open and honest on things that matter.

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      June 24, 2013 at 7:29 am

      I’m honest to a fault…it gets me in trouble. 😉

      Reply
  18. Tammie says

    June 23, 2013 at 10:40 pm

    Love your blog and this just makes it even better! Keep the videos coming 🙂

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      June 24, 2013 at 7:29 am

      Woohoo! 🙂

      Reply
  19. Valerie says

    June 23, 2013 at 9:54 pm

    Loved the video and look forward to more!

    Reply
  20. Erin Boyd Odom says

    June 23, 2013 at 9:03 pm

    Loved it! The girls loved watching it as well…Maggie was talking back to you! 😉 Can’t wait to see more. You need a 5 Minutes on THM!

    Reply
  21. Nancy says

    June 23, 2013 at 3:01 pm

    Yes, delightful!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      June 23, 2013 at 4:05 pm

      🙂 Good. We’ll do another one soon!

      Reply
  22. Stacy says

    June 23, 2013 at 8:07 am

    Thanks a bunch!

    Reply
  23. NCC Kellum says

    June 23, 2013 at 7:52 am

    First visit to your blog….I’m a new fan! I loved the candid discussion.

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    • Stacy says

      June 23, 2013 at 8:05 am

      🙂 Thanks! I hope you’ll come back!

      Reply
  24. Ashley Jarmin says

    June 23, 2013 at 12:39 am

    I found you about a year ago. You have been a blessing to me. I love how you guys do your blog. I have read some others but yours is my fav. So real and very easy to connect with. Thank you! I have really liked hearing (reading) Barry posts. I enjoy the male perspective. I would like to know more about how you divide home chores if at all– also, my daughter just turned 5 and is highly emotional. Her high emotions have led to an increase in fussing/whinny/ and tantrum behaviors –we are lost on how to train self control and emotional health.. My hubby and I both shut down and leave situations that cause us to have emotional rises. Have you had issues with Annie??

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    • Stacy says

      June 23, 2013 at 8:06 am

      Annie has always been “high needs.” 🙂 We just kinda feel like that’s normal. When she gets too crazy, we make her go to her room and sit on her bed until she calms down. Then we start over. That usually works. Or other distractions. Something totally different than what she was doing before.

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  25. Leah says

    June 22, 2013 at 10:19 pm

    LOVE IT!

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  26. Leigh Ann says

    June 22, 2013 at 9:40 pm

    Y’all are so funny! I like sitting down with the both of you. 🙂 thanks for sharing!

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 10:17 pm

      🙂 It’s better in person.

      Reply
  27. Martha says

    June 22, 2013 at 6:17 pm

    great!! good laugh! we have some things to learn, and yes mentors are very important! to help us practically and help us to turn to the Lord.

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 10:19 pm

      Amen to that.

      Reply
  28. Traci says

    June 22, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    Loved it!! Please make more videos!

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 10:19 pm

      Stand up comedy.

      Reply
  29. Tina says

    June 22, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    I thought your video was great. The “noise” from the baby was not distracting. You are a family with young children. If you have to take the time to make sure that everything is “perfect” before shooting the video, they won’t be spontaneous and fun. If you have to wait for peace and quiet before making your video, you will never make another video. Just keep making them and don’t worry about a little noise!

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      Peace and quiet…what’s that? LOL Thanks, Tina!

      Reply
  30. Jennifer says

    June 22, 2013 at 4:02 pm

    Great job! Keep them coming!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      Will do!

      Reply
  31. Sarah says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:42 pm

    Love it! Post more! 🙂

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 5:21 pm

      I’m so glad!

      Reply
  32. Shannon says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:32 pm

    Enjoyed!!!

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 3:33 pm

      🙂 Thanks!

      Reply
  33. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    Excellent point!

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  34. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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  35. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    Barry is full of them…or it. Full of it. Yeah, it.

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  36. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    🙂

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  37. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    And nuts. We’re nuts.

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  38. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    So far Andy’s noise was distracting to some…so I’m not sure they could handle Annie here too. 🙂 LOL She’s quite a bit louder than him. That’s why we made this video when she wasn’t here…incognito.

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  39. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    LOL Oh dear. I kinda feel like part of our “real life” is that our kids are with us. But we’ll try to do something different next time.

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  40. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    Thank YOU for commenting!

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  41. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    Gotta have humor – or life isn’t much fun. 🙂

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  42. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    🙂 I”m so glad you enjoyed it!

    Reply
  43. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    Thanks for the recommendation!

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  44. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    You called me cute – I like you!

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  45. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    Hooray! We will. 🙂

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  46. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    🙂 We had to take the opportunity to do one when Annie wasn’t here – and Andy’s naps are while Barry is at work.

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  47. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    🙂 Thanks, Pam!

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  48. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    You too! Congratulations on your anniversary coming up! 5 years is a great accomplishment!!

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  49. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    You would be the one to catch that comment. 😉

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  50. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    We’ll do more for sure!

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  51. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    I’m glad! 🙂

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  52. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    We’ll do it!

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  53. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    Those are GREAT suggestions!!!

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  54. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    Why yes I am the cut up of the family. 🙂 Could ya tell?

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  55. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    That’s our job! 🙂

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  56. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    🙂 We’re full of it. Thanks for the support!

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  57. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    🙂 This was our first try, so we didn’t know. Next time I”ll try Andy in a different room and see if he’s happy there. Y’all might hear some squalling.

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    • Cynthia Carter says

      June 22, 2013 at 3:12 pm

      Could you put Andy farther behind the camera? I know how babies like to be with parents. OR could you even hold him? Just some ideas…..hate to make Andy upset, just for us!

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  58. Cynthia Carter says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Loved it! I say make more! I would love to see your whole family, if you are not opposed. Not sure what I would want you to talk about. I just loved seeing you guys!

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  59. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    LOL I hope he will!

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  60. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    It was fun! 🙂

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  61. Stacy says

    June 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Yes, we did do marriage counseling before we got married. We also did Financial Peace University together. 🙂

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  62. Erin says

    June 22, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    Mentors are soooooooooooooooo important. I tell newly married couples to just find couples at church that are doing it right and hang out with them until they are sick of you 🙂 Same with parenting. My husband and I knew NOTHING about parenting so we read all the books and that made it worse. Hang out with Godly married couples and Godly parents. Your church family IS your family and they teach you. We’ve been married 20 years and now we are the mentors 🙂 I enjoyed your video, btw. I will have to read your blog with a southern accent from NOW ON!!

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 3:06 pm

      I am so thankful for our mentors – they have really made a difference in our life: as parents and as a couple.

      Reply
  63. Stephanie Gerlach Allen says

    June 22, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    This was great! I would enjoy more video’s.

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 3:06 pm

      Great! 🙂 Thanks for letting us know!

      Reply
  64. Jessica Smartt says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:57 pm

    I love it! I think you should answer reader questions during this time. Unprepared, unscripted. Someone just reads you the question. You guys are a great team!!!

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    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm

      That’s a good idea. 🙂 I’ll see if people will submit some.

      Reply
  65. Carol Schultz says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:49 pm

    This was great! You didn’t mention if you had marriage counseling before you got married to discuss if you had similar ideals on money/kids/etc & how you handle disagreements on money (since that’s the #1 reason for divorces). Maybe another 5 min topic!
    I also love the idea of marriage mentoring!
    Thanks for sharing!

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  66. Monika says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:44 pm

    I liked it. 🙂

    Reply
  67. Margaret Ham says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    I thought it was great, and want my husband to watch it…

    Reply
  68. Rae says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:19 pm

    I think it was fantastic. Very real, very natural which is always good to see. The only thing I would alter is the noise level near the mic. It drowned out your words on occasion, though Annie is fantastic at keeping a beat.

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  69. Anita says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:18 pm

    You guys are too cute!! I would love to see more of these videos with tips!! That made me smile 🙂

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  70. Heidi says

    June 22, 2013 at 1:05 pm

    I loved it! Good points and made me laugh. 🙂

    Reply
  71. Cynthia Combest says

    June 22, 2013 at 12:11 pm

    I loved your video!! You two are just too precious. Keep on doing what you are doing. Stacy, I bet you are the cut up in the family. I think it would be a great idea if you write down or record everything cute and funny thing that Annie and Andy do. This would be a terrific book or blog in itself. The kids would love these memories later on when they have their own. Love you both!

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  72. Michelle says

    June 22, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    I loved it! Short, simple, unedited, from the hip. It’s nice for those of us who follow you to see how you two interact. Here’s a small sample of topics you could throw out in your 5 mintues…

    Who does what chores around the house and why? what chores do you hate and who (if either of you) gives in and does this or that for the good of the whole. etc.

    Does Barry ever cook? Does Stacy give advice while Barry cooks? Does Barry give “suggestions” to stacy about what she cooks. Is there an off limit food? etc

    Do you ever play games with each other? What do you do as a couple or family that brings you closer, makes good memories and is or isn’t in the budget? etc.

    It’s always fun for others to see that it’s not always easy to make it work (why it’s called work) but in the end it can work and is worth it. Thanks for sharing.

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  73. Doris says

    June 22, 2013 at 11:49 am

    I LIKE it! Keep ’em coming!

    Reply
  74. Rachelle Cade says

    June 22, 2013 at 11:04 am

    I loved it.

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  75. Becca Carroll says

    June 22, 2013 at 10:53 am

    Oh, and I love the video, you MUST make more! Divorce isn’t an option for us, either. 😀

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  76. Becca Carroll says

    June 22, 2013 at 10:49 am

    Bahahaha! Making up IS fun!

    Reply
  77. Melissa says

    June 22, 2013 at 10:44 am

    Thank you for that, I thought it was fun! (: My husband and I got married while I was 18 and he was 21, going on our 5 year anniversary this December with everyone along the way sharing their opinion of how it won’t work. Divorce is not an option for us, either. Communication is a huge thing for us, especially since he works out of town. I like the points you touched on and it’s always nice to see how other couples work in their marriages. (: Have a good weekend!

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  78. pam says

    June 22, 2013 at 10:16 am

    Love it! Definitely make more of these little videos.

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  79. Frieda Merichko says

    June 22, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Next time do this when it is nap time. Otherwise, I like all you said.

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  80. Kara says

    June 22, 2013 at 9:35 am

    Please continue these!

    Reply
  81. Sandy says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:55 am

    Loved it!! You two are so cute together and everything you said was excellent and so true.

    Reply
  82. becky says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:52 am

    I like this idea. 🙂 I’d like to recommend a book along this topic by a Christian writer covering how so very important intimacy is in a marriage. Its called “Sheet Music” by Kevin Leaman. It speaks to both men and women about their roles as husband and wife

    Reply
  83. Brandy M says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:47 am

    Love it – great advice!!!

    Reply
  84. rita says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:44 am

    HA! HA! Yes, would like to see more! Good advice with humor….having been married for 33+ years this advice is ‘spot-on’….plus a whole lot more…but you have the basics “down pat”!

    Reply
  85. SMHG says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:32 am

    Great post! Very real. Thanks!

    Reply
  86. creativeschmidt says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:32 am

    I love this! Just shared it with my Husband. Ya’ll are cute & quirky…and just plain real! 🙂 Thanks for sharing your hearts on marriage.

    Reply
  87. Danielle Brentlinger says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:30 am

    How nice.

    Reply
  88. Stacey D says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:26 am

    Enjoyed! Good idea.

    Reply
  89. A. States says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:24 am

    How appropriate as my husband and I are celebrating 22 years together…. today!

    Reply
  90. Elaine says

    June 22, 2013 at 8:09 am

    Great video.
    Good points. We do the same thing with divorce not being an option. Equally yoked would be an addition.

    Reply
  91. Jenn L says

    June 22, 2013 at 7:52 am

    This was great!

    Reply
    • Stacy says

      June 22, 2013 at 7:55 am

      🙂 Thanks.

      Reply


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