Most of you probably know, I have 4 children between the ages of 10 and 3.  And y’all, my oldest, Annie, did not sleep the whole night through until she was nearly 5 years old. That’s right – just month before her 5th birthday! I tried nearly every sleep tip under the sun – I was desperate for sleep!

As a dad of four young kids, I’m in awe of what it takes to be a mom. I’m definitely not capable of doing what most of you moms out there accomplish. I regularly tell people that Stacy is a superhero…and I mean it. But here’s the thing, ladies – you are way too hard on yourself. Every mom fail matters!

However, using someone’s cheery social media feed as your standard, you’ve decided that you can’t measure up and that you’re a complete disaster. In doing that, you’ve set an unrealistic expectation that you literally will never be able to live up to.

Here’s the thing: we need you to fail.

You may have heard me talk before about the busy bags we take to church. Each and every Saturday night, I fill our busy bag with all kinds of goodies to keep the kids occupied during church. I have a box full of crayons, markers, coloring books, sticker books, activity books, different small crafts and activities that I store in our basement and can choose fun things from.

Since I get asked all the time what’s inside those church busy bags (specifically), I did a quick video on Facebook showing a sneak peek. But I also wanted to share over here since some of you prefer to read instead of watch a video. So…what’s in the busy bags?

I know famous people, y’all. Jessica Smartt is my friend, a fellow blogger, and now, she’s a published author too. She wrote a real live BOOK! So now I am basically friends with a famous celebrity. Well, I mean, not exactly a celebrity, but it’s still kind of a big deal, right?

Her book is called Memory-Making Mom: Building Traditions That Breathe Life Into Your Home.

Before you start going down a bad path…this book is not going to make you feel like a failure as mom. Nope! I’m not about mom guilt and neither is Jessica! Can I tell you something?

I really struggle at the mom thing most days.

As a family, we do Bible time together. We always have a time that our family comes together to do our family Bible reading and prayer time. Annie is 9, so she does have her own Bible time as do Barry and I.  We alternate through the list below and have so many favorites. A good devotional book really can make a big difference for Family Bible Time! So here are ten of our favorites, plus a couple bonus books for moms.

I’ve gotten asked before, Stacy, “How do you approach church involvement and extracurricular activities?” My take on this might be different than yours – but that’s okay! We can have different opinions and still be friends.

Before we had kids, Barry and I were very active in church.

We were at our church multiple days a week – I was volunteering and headed up one of the kitchens. I was very, very involved and so was Barry – because we had tons of time. But after kids, even thought we still wanted to be involved, it became much more difficult. Kids needing naps – trying to tote things around and contribute with our hands full most of the time – it was harder than we expected it to be!

If y’all have been following for any amount of time you know that I am a stay-at-home, work-from-home, homeschooling mom. But more importantly than that, I am a wife to Barry. Being a wife is just as much – if not more! – who I am than all those other things. But for some reason, finding time for your marriage is just one of the hardest things to do!

You are not just a homemaker. You are not just a mom. You are a wife.

Sometimes my life as a homemaker is so constant and non-stop that it’s easy for it to take over and become my life. Make breakfast, do dishes, sweep, mop, wipe butts, wash hands, make snack, wipe butts, clean up messes, make lunch, wipe butts, wipe snotty nose, repeat. Yes, it seems like a never-ending job. It seems like it is your whole life is tied up in your role as a mom and homemaker. But here’s the thing – your kids are going to grow up and leave one day. When that happens, you want to make sure you still have a (good) relationship with your spouse. I don’t want to feel like an empty shell of a person when the kids are gone! It’s important that I cultivate my relationship with Barry, not just my children.